You’re here, and this is new. And since this is the beginning, I wanted to start by telling you what these emails are going to be.
These emails moving forward are going to be a place to pause. A place to notice what’s happening underneath the thing you’re trying so hard to accomplish. Because if you’re anything like the people we love working with, you’re probably very good at functioning.
You get things done.
You show up.
People count on you.
You hold yourself to a high standard.
And from the outside, things may look pretty damn good. But being high-functioning can make it incredibly easy to miss yourself.
You can become so practiced at pushing through discomfort that you stop asking whether the discomfort is trying to tell you something.
You can mistake perfectionism for ambition.
Anxiety for intuition.
Control for responsibility.
Achievement for identity.
And somewhere along the way, you can become incredibly successful at being the person everyone expects you to be while feeling less and less connected to who you actually are. That’s what we’ll be talking about here:
Identity.
High performance.
Perfectionism.
Anxiety.
Self-trust.
The pressure you put on yourself.
The expectations you carry.
The parts of you that learned to stay safe by being exceptional.
And what becomes possible when you no longer need achievement to prove that you are enough.
Some weeks, we will give you something to think about.
Some weeks, we will challenge something you may have been believing for a very long time.
Some weeks, we will give you a question that follows you around for the rest of the day.
And sometimes, you may simply read something and think: Oh. That’s me.
That’s enough.
You don’t need to fix yourself in these emails.
You don’t need to become a better version of yourself every Tuesday.
You get to start by noticing.
Because clarity comes through movement, not before it.
So welcome. This is a space for the part of you underneath the performance, and we are so glad you’re here.
Take gentle care,
JM